The World's Greatest Tragedy.

13 November 2015

Th world's greatest tragedy

In this society, people are no longer honest and open about all the pain, discomfort, hardship and suffering that we go through on daily basis. We don't have the courage and vulnerability to open up about our afflictions.

Just look at Facebook and the pissing contest of success stories that is going on there.

But it's not only Facebook, it's the community, the neighbor, or a family member.

Perhaps it's all about the vague questions, we ask. "How was your day?" "How are you?" "How was school?" "How was work?"

Instead of entertaining meaningfulness and curiosity. Why don't we ask from a place of love and wonder? "Is there anything that bothers you?" "Did you feel lonely at any point today?" "Did anything make you laugh?" "What made you sad today?"

We've become completely detached from our emotions. We lie to others about them, and we lie to ourselves.

We're embarrassed and ashamed of our deepest fears and pains. The suffering itself becomes the cause of a greater, infinite and perpetuated torment. 

Our afflictions are part of universal connectedness, and yet we let them separate us. Isolation and aloneness are inevitable unless we can be open, honest and authentic.

If we openly talked about our sadness, our failures, fears, and pains, perhaps this world would never stigmatize mental illness. In our partaking we could welcome our suffering, cherish it and accept it.

We are so immersed in the thoughts of our mind. We're consumed by our restless doing mode unable to escape.

We live in our heads and our to-do lists without a veracious awareness of others. The others are themselves locked inside the agonizing swirl of anxiety.

And we are trying to get along with each other, and we are wondering why it doesn't work. 

We project our stories on the face of the world, on other people, our pets... without realizing they are only ours. Our stories. 

We cannot truly know someone.

It's such a bizarre thought. Mother doesn't know her own child. Long term partners don't have a clue who the other person really is.

We only see a fraction of someone. We only see all that they share with us.

How much do you share of yourself?

Sometimes we think, we're open with somebody, just to find out we can't even be open with ourselves.

And that's the world's greatest tragedy.



9 comments:

  1. That's deep.

    I don't share much about myself, though it is easier to do with someone who you meet online.

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    1. Thank you Pav.

      It's understandable to be more comfortable to share our problems and lives with strangers. Often times we feel a lot safer. The reactivity and fears of getting hurt by our loved ones created in our early attachments is not present.

      I think that having the courage and vulnerability to open up to the people around us is necessary in order to feel less alone and to feel more connected.

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  2. This is deep and touches on many levels of human psychology. I loved this article. Very well written. It's true that we are so ingrained in our day-to-day habits that we forget that we are here for others. We were made to socialize and to work together. I myself am a victim of this tragedy.

    Thank you for this article. This shed some light on the way I've been living my life. Maybe tomorrow I'll ask "How can I help you becoming a happier person?" instead of "Why are you unhappy?"

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    1. Thank you Luis. It means a lot.

      It all starts with acceptance of ourselves and self-compassion. If we all look inward and feel comfortable with what we find, we can be better at connecting with others, and that is not an easy thing to do. But it's possible and necessary!

      I hope we all get the courage to be vulnerable and reach to others and enhance our lives for the better.

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  3. Wow this is beautiful. It's everything I've wanted to say wrapped up so eloquently. I feel as though humans have forgotten that the key to our survival has been our humanity and need for others. However, even for those who do realize this, it can be difficult to get off the carousel.

    Thanks again.

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    1. Thank you Charlotte for your kind comment.

      It seems, we lost ourselves in our inventions and progress. It certainly is not easy to change especially in adulthood but it is possible to embark on the adventure. Seeing and acceptance are the first steps.

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  4. Whuuuh! How profound are these words...
    It truly takes a lot of courage to be authentic...to allow oneself to be an open book for others to peruse. I agree as well that life's greatest tragedy is that we are unable to be open, not just with others, but also with self.

    You've challenged me today...to move from 'how are you.' to 'is there anything that bothers you???' and 'how can I help???'...looking over the walls that people build around their true selves! Good stuff, good stuff :)

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    1. Thank you Esther. I'm very humbled by your words. It sure is hard to be vulnerable but it's worth it!

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